Because lack childishness,the failure that we have some of parent to teach the child often is. Eye of commonly used adult sees the parent the child, actually the child has his scope of operation, they feel fancy to aught, was full of an illusion, good game, love raises a question. But some parents make child “ prim ” , always want to turn the child into ” of “ young adult, this kind of education that breaks away from age characteristic creates the barrier of two acting people very easily, majority wants failure.

The parent does not understand the child to return expression to be in a lot of respects, like the child's interest hobby and parent differ, behavior habit and parent are different, etc. The child's practice often contains times distinguishing feature, and the trace that the parent's practice often contains past times, the experience of two acting people is different, of course can a lot of pay no attention to solution.

So, how be changed to understanding by estrangement?

　　 Above all, want to understand the child's psychology.

The psychology that does not know the child won't have childishness, although you are for child consider, but the result that has obtained very hard.

For instance, the child snows the day thinks and the child goes snowball, but mom is afraid of child catch a cold, close him in the house. The child presses his suit: “ mom, let me play a little while, play a little while to come back. ” mom says however: Outside “ to be cold, be careful catch a cold. They are bigger than you, can bully you. You have so much toy, play in him home! ” child cried, how can be this one's own little world compared with small companionate snowball?

Some children must change the clay figurine in child hand with his dynamoelectric toy, some children raise a small tadpole meeting pour into is all painstaking effort …… these look in adult is strange thing simply, can be normal however to the child.

Each child is in “ idea, feeling, experience, happy, disturbed, depressed respect is a distinctive world. The psychology of child of ” whose understanding, who can win the child's heart, acquire active right of education; Conversely, can produce phenomenon carrying an ox on the head, suffer the child's resentment even, arduous and do not please.

　　 Next, want to know the child's demand.

Ci of American scholar conspicuous asks to understand the child's psychology, to 5 continent 100 thousand children undertook 20 many countries investigate, discover the child has 10 to main demand of parents:

(1) child is attendant, do not quarrel.

(2) should give to every child same love, not prejudicial.

(Any 3) moment do not break his promise to the child, lie, conversation should calculate a sentence.

(Want between 4) parents mutual and self-effacing, forgive each other.

(Close relationship should maintain between 5) parents and child.
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